When giving your reason for turning down a romantic relationship, keep them centered on yourself so that he or she doesn’t misinterpret them as some sort of insult to his or her character. Then, add any advice that friends or family members would give you about the situation. If you’re ready to move on, then decide how far along in the process of getting over them you are. The first step is being honest with yourself — are you really over them? If not, then you should think twice before pursuing a friendship.

I only really keep in contact with one, and technically, she was the one I was never “officially” dating. So if you wanna go by specifics, no, I don’t really keep in touch with any of my exes. I’ve got two exes who I’m still pretty good mates with. They’re also good mates with my wife (indeed, the three of them plus others are going on a girl’s night out for a birthday this weekend). Unless they’re actually worth keeping around for some very good reason, just don’t.

Sleeping with your best friend can have its own set of pros and cons. So, take your time before taking the plunge of getting in bed with your bestie. We’re not trying to scare you, just acknowledging what’s at stake.

Being friends gives you the opportunity to get to know the person for who they are and gives you the opportunity to learn things about them that you would not have learned otherwise. Friendship before the relationship is eventually a good thing for cheekylovers com both of you. Only you can judge how close you and your friend are, but if we’re talking about your best friend or someone you see often, that alone can deter you from dating their ex. Be honest with yourself regarding the nature of your feelings.”

Keep in mind their past

There’s women who just want to be friends with people, thinking in some naive ways they’re entitled to friends. Now, after being with this girl for four years, he has become a super reliable guy, always on time, works hard, and is super relaxed. But he is also the most awkward person I’ve ever met, he doesn’t really want to go out anywhere and doesn’t have many interests besides video games. It’s like he traded all of his good attributes in order to improve on his bad ones. “I dated a girl for almost two years, we both changed each other relatively positively. I’d been in a bad relationship before so I had a lot to work through, and she was in the process of getting out of a manipulative relationship as well, similar to the one I had been in.

Be sure you actually want to be her friend… not something more.

He would tell me I seemed desperate and that it turned him off completely. This, just from kissing him while he was at his computer. I told her she needed to be able to function on her own, she needed to spend time by herself, figure out who she was before being in a relationship.

The most basic criteria for embarking on any friendship, even with romance and sex completely out of the equation, is the ability to trust that you will not deliberately hurt each other. If you need help withstanding this, even if you’ve made the decision to leave, professional support would be something strongly to consider. It’s normal to still feel attracted to someone after a breakup, but don’t try to feed into these feelings. It’s hard to stay just friends if you’re still having sex or being physically intimate. Some exes are able to maintain a physical relationship, or be friends with benefits, after a period of time.

You Want to Date Your Best Friend. But Should You?

Fuck no. if you don’t want me around, you don’t get the benefits of my friendship. It’s also the only chance you can change her mind. “My best friend did the weirdest 180 when he started going out with his now-fiancée. So what spell does he have her under that makes her give him everything? I didn’t know his parts stopped working at that age.

The dude had coaxed a 14-year-old girl under the bridge with promises of ‘smoking her out’ and he assaulted her. My friend told me this and I apologized to her, thinking we were on the same page about her ‘boyfriend’ being a complete psychopath. She launched into a huge ranting screaming rant about how she was going to beat the heck out that ‘witch’ and ‘how dare she make up these lies! ’ She couldn’t accept that at the ripe old age of 16 that she was too old for her middle-aged boyfriend to be attracted to. Be aware that whenever you have a guy friend, there will be questions, doubts and moments of weakness. As his friend, you see his flaws; you see who he is when he’s sad and when he’s happy.

Hopefully, after you emphasize your interest in dating other people, your friend lightens up on you. If not, it’s OK to let this friendship drift away. My guess is that he didn’t want to embarrass you, himself, or others at the social event—either by ignoring you or going into the details of your prior relationship.